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Being Okay With Me

I previously have mentioned how I broke a major female stereotype in getting rid of a large amount of shoes. I also got rid of most of my fingernail polishes and pared my make up down so that it is only what I actually need in my day to day life. Part of the reason I did this was because I wanted to de-clutter and have less to worry about, but that wasn’t the only reason.

I don’t know if it is because I’m pregnant and expecting a girl, or if I’m just more comfortable with being who I want to be but I realized that a lot of what I have/had has to do with society pressures. I had a lot of make up because I see all these pins on pinterest that make me think I should care a lot about my eye make up. As a woman I’m supposed to have lots of shoes. My outfit is supposed to be perfectly put together and styled to a T.

And since being pregnant, and especially since finding out I’m having a girl, I realized that I am not that person who cares about that and I don’t want to be. While, I don’t fault anyone for finding things important that I don’t. I’ve found that I am more okay with admitting to myself who I want to be.

I want to be the kind of person who has a closet full of shoes she will actually wear and enjoy, so I got rid of the heels.

I owned tons of fingernail polish, but in reality I rarely wear it.

While I enjoy seeing perfectly put together outfits as much as the next person, in my heart of hearts I am a cute, comfortable casual girl. Jeans and a t-shirt are my go to and I’m okay with being that girl. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I won’t be able to slap together the perfect “going out” outfit, or know how to look “boho chic”. While sure, they are cute looks, they aren’t me. Those pinterest pins of millions of perfect outfits just exhaust me with how much I’d have to keep in my closet.

I’ve come to terms with the fact that I want to be me and not worry about what should be cool or hot or in style. And, I think a big part of that is that I want my daughter to be okay with being her. Girls have it hard these days. Whether it is in your face advertising of “this is what you should want to be as a female” or more subtle cues, girls and women are constantly being shown who they should want to be, who they should strive to be and judged more harshly when those expectations aren’t met.

So, my make up drawer is super neat because I can spread out the few items I need. My nails (toes and fingers) are naked. I only own 3 pairs of heels. My wardrobe doesn’t have those “Must have” pieces and I rarely wear jewelry. And, I’m OKAY with that. I’m happier now than I was when I thought I needed to worry about those things.

And don’t misunderstand, it isn’t that I’m not vain. I’ll give a dirty look to anyone who says “it’s only hair” when discussing my locks. I just don’t happen to want to do some new style with it every day… which is good since I’ve got no hair skills.

My main point is that I’m okay with who I am, even though it is necessarily what society expects of me. I have those things I care about and I have things I don’t care about.

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The Rude Stroller People

This past weekend, a subdivision near where I live, had it’s huge annual community yard sale. For the first time ever, I went out and braved the crazy people and the too packed to drive properly streets to find some good deals. And, good deals I did find. I got a myriad of items including a breadmaker for me and a cute running frame for Joseph that we are going to turn into a metal display hanger. But, the main goal was to get some stuff for the baby. I will say that she made out like a bandit with some adorable clothes and some cute toys.

Then, we have the stroller story. We had stopped at this one house and as we were walking up heard “No, I am not lowering prices today”

That little fact is very important for the point of my story.

Instantly, I zero in on a Jeep Running Stroller. It looks to be in great condition, it’s a good brand and a running stroller is something I could definitely dig once the little girl gets here. For a couple of minutes we debate amongst ourselves and I look up and ask “How much is it?”

The woman selling it replies with the price. I say “I’ll take it”

Her husband says “here let me get that out for you” because it was surrounded on all sides by other baby merchandise.

Then, as the stroller is in the air, being lifted into a clear spot for me, the wife who just gave me the price says “No they just bought it.”

As in, after I said “I’ll take it”, they gave her money for it.

As in, I had already staked my claim and it was being moved for me and because they were standing in front of her with money in hand and could shove it in her hand faster, they took it.

And how do I know it wasn’t sold before that? Because they were asking if she would lower the price ($15 down to $10) when we walked up and she refused to lower it. And after a couple of minutes discussing whether to buy it or not, they still hadn’t bought it because she provided me with the price. I instantly said “I’ll take it” So needless to say, the rude stroller people won out.

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Fabric Pom Pom Tutorial

PomPomTutorialI’m not sure I ever officially announced on here but Joseph and I are expecting a little girl! Pretty much since the minute I found out, I started pinning ideas for her nursery. One idea I ran across was fabric pom-poms but I couldn’t find good instructions so I ended up winging it. I plan to use these as part of her mobile, but really I could hang these anywhere and be happy.

Materials

For each Pom Pom I used:
1 Yard of Fabric
1 6inch Styrofoam Ball
Straight Pens
Hot Glue
A pencil
Scissors
Something round to make my circles

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To make the Pom Pom, I folded the fabric into a long strip and traced the round object and cut out about 8 circles at a time.IMG_0385

Once all the circles were cut out, I stuck a pin through the middle of each circle.IMG_0386

Folded the circle overIMG_0387

Added a drop of hot glue right where the pin was stuck throughIMG_0388

Folded over again so it was folded into fourthsIMG_0389

Stuck the fabric into the ball

You continue this until the whole ball is full. Every few pins I’d go through and check to see which sides were too packed in and pull out a fabric circle at random to keep them loose and fluffy.

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The Dresser Story

*This is a long one but there is a nursery sneak peak at the end!*

Joseph and I seem to have started this tradition where on Sunday’s we end up going on adventures. This past Sunday we went to Ikea to get a dresser for the nursery. However, since we were on an adventure we wandered the whole store, even the parts that had nothing to do with bedrooms.

Finally, we get down to the warehouse to get our dresser, we grab our big cart to carry our boxes off in, find the right aisle and run into a big empty bin. I stared at it for a few minutes, as if the dresser would magically materialize. The last time we were at Ikea we encountered the same problem but with our crib, surely this wasn’t the case. However, staring at the empty bin, magically, did not make the dresser appear. After a few minutes the crazy pregnant hormones took over and I started crying in the middle of Ikea.

*Proud moments*

Since we were in Atlanta and 6 miles from a Home Goods we decide to go by there. I didn’t expect to find a dresser but it is always a fun store to adventure in. As I expected, I didn’t find a dresser. However, Home Goods was right down the road from The Dump (a furniture store for those not in the know).

We head to The Dump and start wandering around. I’m not fully impressed because it is a lot of wood colored dressers and we are aiming for a white one. Then, the heavens parted and we found the cutest dresser. It was white, and precious. Joseph goes to find the sales woman, we tell her which one we want. We get to the computer and she looks it up… Not in stock, they don’t get another shipment for a month and the manager refuses to sell us the floor model.

*Sigh*

We head to Babies R Us, just to see if they will have anything we might want. But that store had the tiniest furniture section and unless we were willing to drop $500 on a dresser, we were SOL. We did, however, stand in front of the mattress section for far too long trying to figure out which one to buy, in stereotypical, first time parents fashion. We decide on a mattress, Joseph looks it up on Amazon and it was $10 cheaper, so I was like cool, just order it from there. Out of Stock. “For ten dollars we are getting a mattress now!”

So we go home and I check Amazon, Target, Walmart, any place I can think of. I find a dresser I like on Amazon and check Target 1.5 star rating. I found one on Target that I liked enough, and was all set to order… Out of Stock.

Seriously?

Seriously?

Joseph, very smartly, suggests to me “Perhaps you should stop looking up dressers for a while.”

So for thirty minutes I gave his suggestion serious thought.

And then got on Craigslist. I found quite a few options, Joseph and I decided on our favorite, it had been posted just 30 minutes prior, we measure it out in the nursery and it is the perfect size. Joseph calls the number.

IT IS DISCONNECTED

Now I have been hit with the nesting bug and I am like a dog with a bone. I want a dresser, I must find a dresser, but at every SINGLE turn I am disappointed. By numerous stores and outlets.

Joseph, on Monday decides that he is not content by this whole disconnected number issue and he takes another look at the ad. The number has now been changed, it was typed in a digit wrong and he calls the number. A voice picks up, the dresser is available. It is a Broyhill, it is under $200. We borrow Dad’s truck, go and look at it. It is pretty, and white; made of wood and pretty.

So we have a dresser because Joseph persevered. (And I think he was tired of me stressing over it)

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Getting it Together – a Follow Up

From the feedback I received last week for my Getting it together post, it is clear that I am not alone in feeling like I’m constantly overwhelmed and falling apart. And while I truly understand that no one has it all “together”, I am not happy with my personal level of togetherness. It seems like multi-tasking to pull myself together is not something I’m capable of. While I, in no way, feel the need to be close to perfect or 100% together, I certainly want to feel more put together than I do currently.

Part of this, I’m sure, is the fact that nesting has hit me hard. I want to clean everything, get the nursery together, become organized, use green cleaning supplies, etc and I want to do it all right now.

There is another part of me that knows that if I were to de-clutter my living spaces, it would lead to me feeling more together and less stressed and so I actually have some rather crazy plans in terms of de-cluttering.

One thing I did a few weeks ago was ruthlessly go through my make up. I got rid of FAR more than I kept. In fact, the only things I did keep were the things I use every day. Gone are all the different colored eyeshadows, gone are the remnants and foundation back ups. Then, when I was finished with that, I went through the fingernail polish. Out of the dozens I had, I kept 4. I’m not going to lie, the stress from doing make up has lifted, I’m more content with having a cleaner drawer, less make up and a less complicated morning because I don’t have to wonder or feel guilty for not using some of the more fun eyeshadow I had.

My next de-cluttering project, which I know might make some women (and men) gasp in horror is that I’m going to ruthlessly go through my shoes. As of right now I have a ridiculous number of heels that I don’t wear. I wear flats, flip flops and converse 99% of the time. Besides that I really only ever need 1 pair of black heels. So if you want some cute, barely worn heels, check out goodwill, because they will be coming.

Really though, ever since I wrote that post, I’ve been brainstorming on what it is I need to do, change and implement to make myself feel more put together. Like I said, I’m not looking for perfection, but I am looking to be content. The answer is, one thing at a time, one focus at a time.

So, I’m going on an adventure. A getting it together adventure.

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Getting it together

Ever feel like some days you just don’t have it all together? That is me ever since we got back from our cruise. I have yet to go grocery shopping for real, we’ve eaten out far too much and the house needs a little TLC.

How do people get it together? Is this some sort of special gene they are given that I lack? I’ve never really felt “together”. Not in the sense that I can do all the housework, be organized, cook, run errands, look presentable, enjoy myself, do school, get a workout in, etc. In fact, it seems if I excel in one thing, I will fail in everything else.

How do you people, who have it together, do it? Does it come naturally? Did you work at it?

I really want to know. 

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Five Things Friday

1. So I just finished re-reading The Hunger Games and I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned before my total girl crush on Jennifer Lawrence, so this link is always worth a giggle or two.

2. And because I’m in a quoting mood. I ran across this buzzfeed article for Daria quotes for every occasion. My teen years consisted of watching this tv show. I think we had similar tactics for playing volleyball.


3. So, I made this meal yesterday and it was OMG amazing. Of course I made a few changes, I used real bacon, not bacon bits; I cut my chicken into smaller pieces and I added ranch dressing mix.

4. So I’m still pregnant. I’ll be 16 weeks on Sunday and we got to hear the heartbeat this past Monday! Those are all exciting and good things for me. In a few weeks, we will also be finding out the gender! 🙂 What do you all think? Boy or girl?

5. So my brother in law, Stephen, who owns the crossfit gym, Cross Fit Boiler Room, in Villa Rica hit a BIG goal this week. Those of you who aren’t in the cross fit know may or may not know what a muscle up is. To me, it is this ridiculous exercise that doesn’t even make sense in how you do it, like AT ALL. And Stephen got his first! (Of course he picks a night I’m NOT there to see it, LAME!)

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