Monthly Archives: December 2012

Staying at Home

Friday, I posted about leaving my job. Today I want to discuss that a little more.

A few months ago, Joseph and I originally started to discuss me leaving my job. I took a while to come around to this idea because while I think there is a lot of value to be had with a stay at home mom, the thought of being just a stay at home wife was hard for me to come around too.

I did a lot of googling about this, to read opinions, thoughts, up and downsides to it. I took into consideration both the positives and the negatives I read about stay at home wives and eventually I found myself feeling like I wanted to defend stay at home wives.

A great deal of society looks at women who stay at home without a child as someone pushing back the feminist movement, worthless to society and someone who is lazy and just wants to be taken care of.

The truth of the matter, at least for me, is that I’ve been working in a real job since I was 15. I’ve never taken the time to figure out what I want to do, I’ve never been without a 40 hour a week job, I’ve never had an unstructured life.

At work, while I love the people I work with and feel extremely lucky to have a boss I adore, the job wasn’t the best fit for me. After a while I found myself getting more frustrated by angry customers and unable to just let things roll off my shoulders. Additionally, I’m unable to focus on school like I would like to after I went back to school.

Eventually I stopped thinking of this as being a stay at home wife and seeing it for all the opportunities it presented. I’d be able to really focus on school, I’d be able to get stuff done around the house, I’d be able to explore my interests, focus on things I don’t have time for.

So, if someone wants to assume I’m pushing back the feminist movement because I choose to not have a job at this time, I’m alright with that. If someone only sees my worth based off of my job than they probably don’t actually know me very well and I’m alright with that. And, if someone assumes because I’m not out there busting my butt at a job where I make a fraction of what my husband makes that I am lazy and only want to be taken care of, they can make that assumption.

I’ve found that I see great worth in anyone who stay home and keep the house running so that on the weekends and weeknights they can enjoy their time, their spouse and their life. I see great value in having the choice on how best to be happy and having the opportunity to figure it out.

I’m excited that I get to focus on school because I am that person who reads the textbook and does all the homework.

I’m excited to get to explore interests and talents.

I’m excited not to be tied to a schedule that sucks up my week and leaves me living only for the weekend.

I’m excited to have time to write and write and write.

I’m excited to just have time to get the house together and in order.

I’m excited to not know exactly what I’m going to do next.

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Changes

Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
(turn and face the strain)
Ch-ch-changes
Don’t want to be a richer man
Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
(turn and face the strain)
Ch-ch-changes
Just gonna have to be a different man
Time may change me
But I can’t trace time

Today was my last day at Noble Systems. After a lot of discussion with Joseph and considering, praying, thinking and wondering we/I decided that my time at Noble was finished. This wasn’t an easy decision and I’m not going to go into great detail at the moment.

However, I do want to say that I truly appreciate all the opportunities I’ve had while there, all the things I’ve learned… but mostly and what made working there worth it was the people I met and became friends with.

It’s the people there that have made working there such a great experience. I’ve met some amazing, extraordinary, kind, funny, unique people that have made dealing with angry customers not so bad. I’ve seen people come together to help families going through crisis and support their fellow co-workers on physical, emotional, and financial levels. I’ve seen people get engaged, married and start their families. Heck, while there I celebrated my own engagement and marriage.

You can’t work with people for 5 years and not come away from it without being sad to leave them. While I’m at total peace with leaving the job, it’s the people that have truly touched me and pulled on my heart strings. From having some amazing bosses throughout my time to making awesome friends, I’ve been lucky to be able to surround myself with awesome people.

I plan to keep in touch as best as I can and of course, if you’re here and reading this you know how to find me. But, in case you don’t have it my personal email is sbragg87@gmail.com and I’d love to keep up with you.

xoxo

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Oh My How the Time Flies

Wow, it’s been a while. I’m ashamed!

A lot has been going on in the Bragg household.

I’ve been struggling with an awful sinus infection for the past few days and Joseph has really stepped up to take care of me and help me feel better. Right now soup that he made is simmering on the stove, just waiting to be perfectly ready. That’s just a small sampling of all he’s done for me. I’m pretty darn pitiful.

Joseph passed his crossfit level 1 certification and can now train at a real crossfit gym.

Which pushes us to the next point… Stephen and Jasmine opened up their crossfit gym (actually referred to as a “box) Crossfit Boiler Room, in Villa Rica. So, if you’re in the area and want to check it out, they’d love to have you.

I passed American Government with flying colors but I loathed the class as a whole. I learned a lot and I enjoyed what I learned, but this particular classroom experience was not my favorite. But, I did end up getting 19/20 on the final paper when I didn’t follow any of the rules, and that is always a win in my book.

I hosted my first Thanksgiving at my grandmother’s house and with the exception of one exploding pie plate, it went awesomely.

Christmas presents are bought and wrapped, under the tree and waiting to be ripped into. This coming up weekend will be amazing with lots of family time so the 21st better not be the end of the world.

I’m off from school for the next two weeks, so I hope to actually read some books for fun. I have a couple on my kindle that are screaming out to be read.

And that’s all I have to share right now, thanks for reading.

xoxoxo

 

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